Question:  Is Body Mass Index (BMI) still the best measure of body fat?   I have heard that BMI may not be the best way of determining whether a person is overweight.  Is that true?

Answer:  BMI (your weight in kilograms divided by the square of your height in meters) is a pretty reliable way to determine whether you have too much body fat.  But BMI is not a perfect measure because it does not directly assess body fat.  Muscle and bone are denser than fat, so BMI can overestimate body fat in athletes with high bone density and muscle mass or underestimate it in older people who have low bone density and muscle mass.  Because direct measurements of body fat require special equipment and are expensive, BMI is considered a reasonable alternative for identifying people who ar overweight or obese, placing them at higher risk for medical conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, heart disease, stroke, sleep apnea, and certain cancers.

  • A BMI of 18.5 to 24.9 is considered normal
  • 25 through 29.9 indicates overweight
  • and 30 or more, obesity

You don’t need to see a doctor to assess your BMI.  You will find a BMI calculator on the Harvard Health Publications website at http://www.health.harvard.edu/BMI.  All you have to do is type in your current height in feet and inches and your weight in pounds, and the calculator will do the math for you.  The hard work may come if you need to make lifestyle changes to lower your BMI.

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How Happy Are You?  No measures of happiness apply to everyone, but some basic questions can give you an idea.

  • Using the 1-to-7 rating scale that follows, indicate how much you agree with each of the five statements below.
  • Total the numbers for your results.

Rating Scale:

1: Strongly disagree

2: Disagree

3: Slightly disagree

4: Neither agree nor disagree

5: Slightly agree

6: Agree

7: Strongly agree

  1. In most ways, my life is close to my ideal _____
  2. The conditions of my life are excellent ________
  3. I am satisfied with my life ____________________
  4. So far, I have gotten the important things I want in life ________
  5. If I could live my life over, I would change almost nothing _____

The Higher Your Score, The Greater Your Life Satisfaction:

31-35 = Extremely satisfied

26-30 = Satisfied

21-25 = Slightly satisfied

20      = Neutral

15-19 = Slightly dissatisfied

10-14 = Dissatisfied

5 – 9 = Extremely dissatisfied

The Satisfaction with Life Scale by Ed Diener, Robert A. Emmons, Randy J. Larsen and Sharon Griffin

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Age – What can they do to me now? At 82, you can do anything or say anything you want – you’re bulletproof.

Anger – “For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Calories – British scientists have found that a person watching a horror movie burns up to 113 calories in 90 minutes due to elevated adrenaline and metabolic levels.

Change – Change is always painful.  Changes in society itself create conditions from which a path forward gradually emerges.

Charity – Charity is the heart speaking. Those who listen to their heart and act, for any reason, are philanthropists.

Choice (s) – We are lousy at making up our minds. The ability of any one of us to choose what’s in our best interest is severely limited.  It seems that we routinely overestimate what we know.  We fail to predict what we will want in the future.  We are inconsistent about our preferences.  We dither and refuse to commit, because to make a choice is to enter a realm of uncertainty and missed opportunities.

Dream – To dream the impossible dream costs you nothing.

Failure – Can schools teach grit? Schools for the elite and schools for the impoverished have a problem with failure: the wealthy kids don’t see enough of it (failure) to learn resilience, and the poor kids see too much of it to learn persistence.

Fashion – Fashion is emotional, so you want to feel powerful in what you’re wearing, and you want it to say something about you.

Friend / Friendship – It’s the friends you can call up at 4 .M. that matter.

Hair – A woman’s hair is a barometer for her emotions and a cut often signals a radical shift in an individual’s life.

Happiness – “For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Life – Life is a conversation. Make it a good one. In my lifetime I’d like to ……… 

Love – President Ronald Reagan wrote to his son on his wedding day: There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.

Memory – Memories – Memories are a blessing. We pay good money to make them when we plan a wedding, organize a reunion, or fund an excursion.  Our photos and videos are evidence of that.  The selfie is nothing if not an “I was here” aid to memory.  Even with that sort of assist, however, most memories fade.  Which is both sad and healthy.  We can’t embrace the future if the past is too much of a presence.

Prenuptial agreements

  • In-law limitation: spouse’s mother may not join couple on any vacation for more than one night.
  • Weight limitations: Spouse cannot gain more than 25 pounds (unless within 12 months of giving birth or because of a medical condition)
  • Bedroom schedule: Spouse will have sex 2 to 4 times per week.
  • TV bans: Wife may watch only 2 reality-TV shows per week; husband may watch no more than 2 televised sports matches per month.

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One-Minute Stress Tips

Stress does not wait to show up until you have lots of free time to deal with it.  Experts give their quickest stress-relief tips …. because everyone has a minute to spare!

Pull out a calming photograph:  Whether it is palm trees on a beach or your adorable new puppy, looking at something pretty does effect changes in the brain. It either brings us back to the present moment or distracts us by taking us away to somewhere else.

Practice gratitude: Remind yourself that you have your health or family or career.  Have a list of a few things you are grateful for that you can refer to when you are feeling stressed.

Listen to music, preferably alone: Whether you favor Back or Adele, music is a powerful stress reducer.  Songs can evoke happy memories and also help get our breathing and bodies in sync.

Massage your ears:  Ears are covered in acupuncture points, so rubbing them gently can ease tension throughout the body.  Focus specifically on the crease between the back  of your ears and your skull, especially if you wear glasses or spend a lot of time in front of a computer screen.

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Feng shui (“wind and water”) is an ancient Chinese practice that considers the environment a metaphor for everything that occurs in your life.  It is based on the idea that energy, or chi, in every space has its own personality.  When the space you live in is arranged in harmony with nature, life can be good.  Consider your bedroom: The more comfortable you are there, the better you will sleep.  The better you sleep, the more your life will be like a beautiful dream.

Rules For The Bedroom:

  • Place the head of the bed against a solid wall, in the corner farthest from the entry, with the greatest view of the entire room.
  • Friends turn false and support disappears when the bed is placed against a glass or fake wall.
  • Don’t place the bed directly opposite the door or a window; this position drains energy.  If necessary, create a barrier between the bed and the door or window with furniture or plants.
  • Don’t place the mattress directly on the floor  Elevate it above the floor by at least 5 inches, but not more than 3 feet.
  • Don’t use the space under the bed for storage unless you want to dream of what you’ve stored,
  • Avoid clutter and heavy, inappropriate furniture.  Clutter acts as an impediment to subtle energy forces.  And childish toys and furniture keep you in a childlike state.
  • To bring more life and vitality into your bedroom, use 3 plants: one near the entry, one near the bed, and another near the exit or window, making a curved path for the chi.  Add fresh flowers whenever you can.

How To Get to Sleep Faster: Don’t pad around barefoot on cold bathroom tiles when you brush your teeth before bed.  A scientific study has shown that warm hands and feet are the best physiological predictor for nodding off.  Warm your feet on your partner or wear bed socks.

Wrinkles Sleeping on a satin pillowcase will help prevent wrinkles while you sleep.

Regrets?  I don’t believe in regrets.  I believe you face the music and learn from negativity.

The Joy of Looking Fabulous:  Buying clothes is a delight, and no woman … or man .. should feel bad about it.   Don’t let anything or anyone deprive you of the joy of looking fabulous.  I hope you can buy all the shoes you deserve and more!  However, always keep in mind that clothes, shoes, and makeup are just props and that much more important than these “props” is the deeper and far more interesting process of self-discovery.

Sign up for one of our workshops on these themes of “Looking Fabulous”, “Self-Discovery”, “Take Pleasure In Life”, “Don’t Hold Back On Life.”

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